Getting mad is good for you

Getting mad is good for you

Who does anger hurt the most?

Who does anger hurt the most?

Expressed anger feels so good. When you’re good and pissed and have a chance to go off, to get it off your chest, to hand it to somebody that had it coming and let it all out…don’t you feel so much better?

Anger is powerful. It can be righteous, passionate and productive. It gives us fuel to act, make changes, and communicate the truth of our experience, to be heard.

The key to using anger as an asset is expressing it, because the anger we do not express, that we harbor within, we turn against ourselves.

Think about it for a sec. Think back to the last time you got mad about something. Where did you feel it in your body? Maybe across your chest. or in your hands as they clenched into fists, or maybe in your all-knowing gut? Did you express that anger by communicating about it? Or by grabbing a tennis racquet and bashing the nearest pillow, or by letting out a roar of exasperation?

So often we don’t. We take a deep breath and then ignore it, finding some distraction or perhaps muttering something passive aggressive. Or we tuck it into our thoughts — “That’s the third time I’ve had to tell him that — WTF is wrong with him?!” Or maybe we just sit and seethe.

None of these is productive, and that anger, which is energy, remains held in our bodies. Men tend to hold anger in their chest, while women “store” anger in their pelvic cavity. Could this be related to the numbers of heart attacks and fertility/gynecologic issues men and women experience every year?

It might seem like a stretch, but the next time you get mad, notice where it is in your body. What do you think happens to it if you don’t allow it to be expressed and released? Where does it go? Is it serving you in any way whatsoever to hold on to it?

Your anger is valid and justified, but you don’t have to continue to hold it for that to be true. And if you want to maintain your own energy as well as find a productive resolution to what’s bugging you, you’re going to have to find a way to let go of your madness. It’s a powerful catharsis that will bring more ease, more truth, more health and more peace to you.